Lately, I have been thinking about my tribe and who is in it. It seems that the longer we journey in life, the more we refine our circles; we grow wiser about who surrounds us and who we bring into our tribe.
I picture a rowboat gliding across the sea. I’m in the boat, and as I look around, I notice the people around me. Some are rowing along with me in perfect rhythm, and our strokes move us forward together. Their presence and support energize me. Then, I realize others in the boat are sitting still, not rowing, and basically taking up space. They are content to let others do the work while they enjoy the ride. And then, sadly, some people are covertly drilling holes in the bottom of the boat, their actions unnoticed but potentially disastrous.
This image is a powerful metaphor for the people we surround ourselves with. In a world filled with negativity and inauthentic relationships, our “tribe” is important. These are the people who help shape our journey, influence our decisions, and impact our growth. It makes me wonder: Who is in my boat? Who dreams along with me, supports my vision and mission, and prays that I will succeed? Whose boat am I in and am I rowing with all my strength or just taking up space?
We all have dreams and goals, and we’re working to fulfill our purpose. It makes sense to protect our space and invest in 
relationships with people who reciprocate our kindness and love. My friends have often fought silent battles on my behalf through prayers, their support providing me with strength at just the moment I need it. I’ve learned to trust that the right people always enter our lives at the right time and for the right reasons. They are the skilled rowers who help us navigate both smooth and stormy waters.
Visualize your rowboat. Who is in it? Take a moment to appreciate those who are rowing in sync with you and reconsider those who are along for the free ride. None of us is perfect, and we all need grace from one another. But sometimes, we also need to know who is holding us back and who is helping us move forward. Be wise about who is drilling holes in your boat, and kindly ask them to vacate the boat. Your journey is about so much more than reaching a destination—it’s about who you are traveling with.